Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Experience Peace





"If you wish to
experience peace
provide peace
for another."

http://www.susunweed.com/Prayer_for_Peace.htm

My brother, sister and I are now in the process of planning the "Celebration of Life" for my Mother's 80 years of life. 80 years. Can you imagine 80 years of life?

The family photo above was taken at my parents 50th Wedding Anniversary in 1996. They were a model of working together in a committed marriage. They didn't always agree on how to do things. They argued and disagreed, then they forgave each other and went forward in their lives together. They learned to "provide peace for one another." Not all the time. As my Mother developed Alzheimer's, it was difficult for my Father dealing with my Mother's memory loss. My Mother had difficultly dealing with my Father's hearing loss, and the impatience with having to repeat what she said all the time. Their lives, love and marriage continued, even through the frustrations of life's problems.

As my brother, sister and I go forward accomplishing the tasks of the funeral, cleaning out my Mother's apartment, settling her Estate, and working through the grieving process, I pray that we may "provide peace for one another." I keep remembering Deepak Chopra's ideas of the "emotions of peace," - compassion, understanding and love. If I can keep those words in the fore-front of my mind, I may remember that those emotions can help me "provide peace" for someone else, which will help me experience peace during this time of our lives.

Photo: Cathy and Tom Thompson's 50th Wedding Anniversay 1996

9 comments:

Jane said...

Pati,
I continue to remember you in prayer and pray for you as you bring PEACE into this situation.
Such a lovely photo.
~jane

Anonymous said...

You do, indeed, provide peace every day. And, you are the most calming person I know! I have no doubt that peace will prevail throughout the celebration (of an amazing 80 years!) and settling process.

Also, you and your sister haven't changed a bit since that photo. You both are so beautiful -- good genes!

Take care, my friend, and peace be with you!

GirlGriot said...

What a wonderful family picture! Thank you for sharing this time with us, Pati. The gentle, loving way you are working through this is quite inspiring.
--Stacie

Yolanda said...

I will remember you and your family and prayer and and thoughts. I have been where you are twice in 6 years. I will hold you all in my heart.
yolanda

BK said...

I feel honored to have you spend this time with us. Makes me feel peaceful in Israel.
Bonnie

Trish said...

hi! I just found your blog, but I plan to return, it looks wonderful, and I certainly could use a bit more peace in my life!

Anonymous said...

Praying for a gentle peace for your family.

Linda J

MNScrapbookmom said...

Pati, I am thinking of you today as I read about the passing of your mother. She always sounded like such a wonderful strong woman through your words, and through Ali's layouts. Please know that many people are thinking of you and your family as you continue the many tasks of laying a family member to rest. Sending you positive thoughts and peace in which we can never have enough of. Kyra¥

Kate I said...

Such a beautiful photograph of your family Patti...thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings in this intensly personal and private family time.

Compassion, understanding and love...three wonderful words to remember and live by.